Saturday, July 28, 2012

August 1 will mark six months officially in SC. My goals for this move were very simple: be where I want to be and make a difference in the SC Upstate. As simple as it is to say in those few words, no discussion of this change in my life has been simple. Friends, family—even strangers—ask for more. Many simply don't understand why or how I would walk away from my life for a life unknown. I think not wanting to wait to live my dream is a good "why" but the "how" has alluded me, I'll admit. I don't know where I get the courage to face what can be either a little or a major daily battle. Every single part of my life has changed. I've rushed through some of the adjustments, such as getting my SC driver's license on day one even though it was a bad hair day. Other changes have paralyzed me, such as not seeing my SC family any more often than I did when I lived in PA.

The expectations I had for my life here cannot fairly be judged since we are very much in limbo with my husband still in PA to sell the house. Knowing that the house may be on the market for years is defeating. We knew we would be challenged so none of the difficulties are surprising. I've learned so much from this process and that's the surprising part. I'm much braver than I thought I was and I'm more talented, too. I've never appreciated my skills. I've always thought I was "good" at my work because I'm so devoted to what I do. But, I've never considered myself exceptional. I doubt any of us recognize our true worth. The process of selling myself during the job search and then adjusting to a new career and work environment has made it necessary for me to evaluate and reevaluate my skills. How do I fit in? How can I make the difference that is so important to me? How do I work around (or drive through) obstacles?

I've come to appreciate there are some things I am really very good at (and we know math isn't one of those things). You know, I just said that because I couldn't stand not to self-depreciate myself. I'm actually quite good at some aspects of math, such as set and spatial theory. I visualize every problem so don't ask me to just think about something, because I will start to draw it or write it. But I do think, and I think well, and because I think spatially, I see the forest and the trees. I'm savvy on the computer but still want a straight edge and x-acto blade in my drawer. I measure in picas, not inches, which means I'm creative and careful.

My experiences are unique and valuable. I might know how to do something well now because I already made the mistakes. All that workaholic-throw-myself-into-everything time is paying off.